Thursday, 20 December 2012

Facing trials of life with godly attitude


‘I have told you this so that you will have peace by being united to me. The world will make you suffer. But be brave! I have defeated the world!’ ( John 16:33)
Introduction
Trials have been the common experience of humankind throughout history. These trials and storms speak powerfully to the human heart and reveals our broken, weak, sinful and frail nature as ordinary mortals. We all experience hardships, trials and troublesome circumstances in life. All these overwhelm, test, shake and sometimes erode our Christian faith unless we cling to truth - negative emotions, fear, doubts, long standing disappointment and hurts, ill – health, sudden death of a loved one, family difficulties, community and national afflictions and tragedies which perpetually leaves us in prolong sadness and misery because of years of seemingly unanswered prayers and expectations. Even when life sometimes seems to fall apart, we know through our Christian faith that God is in perfect control strengthening and guiding us in every step and changing our circumstances for good.
Why does God allow trials?
The Lord’s ways are totally beyond our ability to understand as human beings. Knowing that God has the ultimate powers can leave us wondering why He would allow our painfully tragic circumstances in life. Why does He allow us go through hard times? Sometimes, we Christians even assume that if we are following the Lord, our lives will be problem and trial free. But Jesus never promised His disciples lives of ease and comfort, but on the contrary told us to expect tribulations (John 16:33). Christ Himself was not exempted from afflictions and sorrows. He was called ‘a man of sorrow’ (Isaiah 53:3). The Lord uses hardships to achieve something good in our lives, but whether we experience these benefits or not depends upon our response.
What is Our attitude and behavior during trials?
Yes, trials and troubles are inevitable part of life, they pop up unexpectedly and come in all shapes and sizes. The question is what is our behavior and attitude when experiencing difficulty or pain? Do we grumble and complain or indulge in self-pity? Or do we get angry and blame others for our troubles? All these reactions lead to despair, frustration and misery. However, St. James presents a totally different perspective about suffering when he said: ‘Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials’ (James 1:2-6). He urges us not to merely delight in pain and be happy about suffering, but to assess our trials as an opportunity to receive the blessings God has promised us when we respond wisely.
Godly perspective for hard times
Dr. Charles Stanley suggests that knowing and determining the sources and causes of trial can help us understand the wise way to react – either is from the self, others, world, Satan or God. He enumerated some godly perspective for hard times in his article titled Wisdom for the trials of life in the InTouch Magazine of January 2012:
·         The Lord controls the timing and intensity of my trial.

·         He has specific purpose for allowing it.

·         It may yield something in me that I presently lack.

·         If I trust God with a joyful attitude, I will benefit from adversity.

·         Christ wants to demonstrate His ability to sustain me under great pressure.

·         He walks with me every step of the way.

·         Through the power of the Holy Spirit, I will come out of this trial victorious.[1]
Right attitude to embrace for the trials of life

ü  In difficult times, we must always remember that God will meet all our needs.

ü  During difficult times, we must learn to cling to the Lord’s promise that He is in complete control. We have certain Biblical assurances that help us endure even if we do not understand.

ü  We must understand God’s purpose for testing our faith and perfecting us. God teaches us through our mistakes.

ü  Cooperate with God’s goal. There are far bigger picture than what we are able to see, and God weaves circumstances together in beautiful ways.

ü  Trials are often necessary to draw us near to God. We can be confident in trials when we rest in the fact that Jesus is in complete control, and will work everything out for our good.
Conclusion
St. James tell us that the crown of life awaits those who persevere under trial. ‘Happy are those who remain faithful under trials, because when they succeed in passing such a test, they will receive as their reward the life which God has promised to those who love him.’ (James 1:12). Though Jesus said we would face troubles in life, He offered encouragement: The ultimate Victory is His, and He will work everything out for our good!

Rev. Fr. Michael Adefemi Adegbola, Director Media Service Centre, Kaduna Nigeria 2012.



[1] InTouch Magazine January 2012

MAKING A GRATITUDE LISTS THIS NEW YEAR


What kind of world do we live in? How do we progressively move forward in a world confronted by multiple contradictions of kidnappings, violence, massacre, trauma, devastation, family crisis, destitution, hunger and starvation? How do we survive in an angry, ungrateful and aggressive world? The answers lies not out there, but in ourselves. A wise man once remarked that a hostile person lives in a hostile world, while a loving person finds it a loving one. The choice is actually ours! Complete obedience is a choice to follow God regardless of the consequences. Seeing His will done is more important than our own comfort and personal ambition. The choice for the way to greatness and goodness is ours. Zane Grey, the prolific writer of western novels gives the recipe for greatness thus: ‘To bear up under loss; to fight the bitterness of defeat and the weakness of grief; to be victor over anger; to smile when tears are close; to resist disease and evil men and base instincts; to hate hate and love love; to go on when it would seem good to die; to look up with unquenchable faith in something ever about to be; That is what any man can do, and be great’.
Obviously, we all have dark times in our lives when we long for a little light to cheer us on our way. This is the light and brighter ray that this New Day and Year emits. As you wake up today, look out of the window gratefully and say to yourself, I am looking at a brand New Day and a brand New Year with a positively brand New mind. So be ever determined to make the most of it assuring yourself that God will give you grace and strength to sail through. Kathleen Gillium beautifully captures it thus: ‘Let our words be happy words of love and sympathy; let us speak of kindness and generosity. Do not let unpleasant things mar or spoil the day; we should then think carefully of what we are going to say. For words can wound and injure, or they can heal and bless – so let us try to cultivate the words of happiness’.[1]
As we begin a New Year in this great journey of Faith, trust is absolutely vital in our relationship with God. Therefore, I encourage you to follow the Lord and trust His Word. The Christian life rests on a firm foundation of God’s promises for today and for the future. We can trust everything that God said because His Word is truthful, faithful, loving and all powerful (Hebrews 4:12-13; Isaiah 40:11; Roman 8:28; John 3:16). The Lord always keep His promises.
·         Learn to rely on His faithfulness, and enjoy the peace and blessing that comes with trust in Him.

·         Let our greatest and most rewarding pursuit be intimacy with God, with hearts full of thanksgiving and demonstrated by thanks living.

·         Learn to fight life’s battles through intimate communion with the Lord.

·         Obey God and leave all consequences to Him

·         Learn to give testimony of God’s greatness and goodness as you tell your story and make your gratitude lists.
Note that Gratitude is the key word of this reflection. Genuine gratitude is a wonderful thing. It takes us into the courts of praise, and once inside, there is  something about beholding the one on the throne that puts a lot in perspective (Philippians 4:6).
So, Let us thank the Lord, praise the Lord, adore the Lord and glorify Him as never before (Psalm 105), this New Year because He is our provider and defender, and will always be no matter what. Though we live amidst doubts and uncertainties, trials and troubles, and at times wonder and question the reasons and causes for certain senseless tragedies in the world, we have every reason to praise and thank God always. So, I feel like thanking you Lord for: for today, for your care and providence, for love and life, for grace and favor, for family and friends, for children, young and old, for benefactors and benefactresses, for teachers and professors, for rain, sunshine, moon, stars, hills and valleys, thunder and lightning, for the gift of speech, sight and the sense to feel, hear, smell, and taste, for the air we breathe and the water we drink, for food and nourishment, for health and strength to work, for the sweet and bitter experiences of life, for joy and sorrows, for hopes and struggles, for tears and laughter, for light and darkness, for success and failure, for every little material and spiritual benefits, for every expression of love, for every act of helpfulness and for the things, which many take for granted. Thank you Lord for everything.
We may at the moment be feeling deserted or rejected by families and friends; we may be experiencing hardship and trials that can test and shake our faith unless we cling to the truth; let us be assured that we are never alone. God promised to be with us always (Hebrew 13:5). The sobering question for us is: What does God want me to do this New Year? God’s promised blessings are real. So following him in all things is the surest path to favor and spiritual growth. Recognizing His intimate presence will give us confidence in the midst of challenges and trials. So be joyful in your union with the Lord, and in all things give thanks to the Lord, rejoicing over all He plans to accomplish in your life this New Year. When God steps in and takes charge, all is well.
May this New Year be an opportunity for us to gracefully grow in the knowledge and intimacy with the Lord who is the Lord of the Universe and Master of every situation. Have a blessed 2013!

Rev. Fr. Michael Adefemi Adegbola, Director Media Service Centre, Kaduna, Nigeria 2013



[1] Francis Gay, the friendship Book, D.C Thomson & Co. Ltd, London, 1999.